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In observance of Lent, our 6 - year old son has to make certain offerings which are divided into three categories - prayer, good works, and fasting.  For fasting, he was asked to avoid candies and sweets, TV, and online games.  For each day that he accomplished any of the recommended behavior, he gets to color a part of a religious image (divided into 8 major parts, each part divided into 40 little cells), the idea being that, come Easter time, that image will be fully colored. 

To encourage and support him, my Betterhalf and I decided to accomplish the same exercise as he has.  For this, Betterhalf photocopied the picture that our son needs to color and list down our own resolutions.  Not to be left alone, our 5 year old said that he would join the activity too.  Finally, our 2-year old, seeing that he was the only one without anything to color said he would join too.  

Anyway, upon the prodding of the 6-year old (he did not want his younger brother enjoying online games and internet videos when he can't), the 5-year old assumed the same penances as his older brother.   The 2-year old, on the other hand, said that he would refrain from his favorite meal - candy and everything sweet) and pick up his toys. 

So, this post is mostly about three game-loving, sweet toothed little boys deprived of some of their favoritest things in the world.  

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So, for almost two weeks now, candies and cakes and ice cream and sweet bread have not been available in our house except on Sunday.  On the fourth day of Lent, a Saturday, and just earlier this afternoon, our 2-year old told his Daddy that it was time for him and his brothers to have a haircut. It puzzled us that this little one suddenly thought about  haircuts.  After some thought, we realized that it was not really a haircut that he wanted but the lollipop that the barber doles out to little children after cutting their hair.   Our little boy misses his candy so much that he remembered the barber. 

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On the other hand, our 6-year old, who is also has a great fondness for sweet gooey treats, savored every last drop of his ice cream last Sunday.  He tipped his bowl over and let the last  of the  melted ice cream  drip on to his spoon.  I guess, when there is not much of something, one learns to appreciate and value it more. Though I wonder now if it was really the last bit of ice cream that he wanted or the fun of scraping the bowl and seeing it drip.  After all, he was not scolded for something that would normally get him a correction.

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To make up for the absence of computer games, we dusted off our tons of board games and let them play with them.  We have Dominion, which they like a lot, and Munchkins, which they like very very much, and Carcassone, which they like as well, among others .  My Better-half, thinking that the games are not young enough to accommodate the 2 year old, bought new ones, three new ones.  Sigh!  Even with our supply of games, the boys still get bored and miss their computer games. 

When weather permits, they play outside.  I have many reasons to thank God for the relatively warm winter, but being able to send the kids out (without the hassle of putting them in thick winter gear) to burn up some of their energy and boredom is one that I am most thankful for. 

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Because I have lost a 'baby-sitter', ehem - the computer games to keep my children occupied while I do my work, I join them in their board games.  So, each afternoon, after homeschool, I am holding Dominion cards on one hand, and  Snakes with the other.  That way, I can play simultaneously with my older children and the 2-year old.  In between, I try to mind my cooking and the baby in his high chair.  I suppose that, even when I leave a game in a huff because my little children skip me and do not let me have my turn (boo hoo hoo!) (I assure you that I am the adult here , the children are happy to have mommy playing with them.  One night, my 5- year old quipped:  "Mommy, I like not having internet games!" But please don't take him on his words though.  One day,  when he went to Daddy's office, he said that he would watch Youtube videos.  He even brought some books and coloring books to help him pass his time.  But, what do you know?  Almost as soon as they arrived in school, our little boy told Daddy that he needed to watch something to be entertained while they were there. )

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But even with the complaints, the children are holding their promises the best they can.  They even diligently do their examination of conscience at night with our help.   I am glad that my Betterhalf and I joined our sons in their Lenten exercises.  Whenever they complain about the difficulty, we can tell them that all of us are having our own inconveniences.  Knowing that their parents are with them make them try to be faithful to their lenten resolutions.   They may not be able to color their religious picture completely (as expected, our 2-year old did not even give his picture another glance after it was given him), but they are making strides towards learning and living our faith. 

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Thank you for visiting.  Have a blessed Lent.

~Imelda 

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Lent is a season of love. Out of love, God the Father sent the Son from Heaven into the world to redeem us so that once more, Heaven, closed to us by original sin, shall once again be opened for us. “For God so loved the world, as to give his only begotten Son; that whosoever believeth in him, may not perish, but may have life everlasting (Jn. 16:16)”. Out of love for the Father and for us, the Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, came down to earth, became like us (except for sin), and suffered and died to pay our debts to God. By His death and resurrection, he opened the gates of Heaven for us.

Lent is simply the continuation of Christmas. Both seasons speak of the love of God and ask a corresponding response from us. At Christmas time, however, it is easier to feel and see the love because its subject is a little cuddly baby. It is just easy to fall in love with babies. Moreover, there are many pretty distractions during Christmas. During Lent, love is at its best but suffering takes center stage and sometimes obscures our vision of love. There are no pretty things. Instead, we see Jesus as the very personification of suffering, instead of the adorable Infant of Christmas. The love that caused His Incarnation has been put in a crucible, and our response too is being put in a crucible.

How do we respond?

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This season, the Church calls for penance.

Penance. In the course of a relationship, let us say, a marriage, the wife or husband does things that offend the other. The one who committed the wrong should say sorry, and will most likely give the offended spouse a hug or a kiss to make up for the wrong. In addition, the offender will keep in mind the offense that was done and resolve not to repeat it anymore in order to mend the relationship and to please the other spouse. So it is, and with even more reason, regarding our relationship with God. In the course of our lives, we do things that are not pleasing to Him (which is generally called sin). So, we have to say sorry and to resolve not to do that which offended Him. Oftentimes, we need to sacrifice our own desires and habits and inclinations in order to keep the promise. We not only make sacrifices to avoid a sin, we also sometimes make sacrifices so that we can do or give something to God. For example, when one gives alms, he forgoes all the fun stuff that he could get with the money that was given as alms.

Penance stands on the tripod of prayer, fasting, and good works.

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Fasting. Many among us will fast – from food, from bad habits, from entertainment. Many will do mortifications that we do not usually do. Why? It is not for difficulty's sake. It is a discipline of the body, of the will and of the soul. Fasting helps us conquer our appetites and inclinations and bring our body and soul in line with God's will. “Aw! There is no need to fast. Being kind, doing a little kind deed here and there is enough.” We hear that quite often today. Well, in the first place, Jesus Himself fasted for forty days before He began His public ministry. St. John the Baptist fasted almost all of his life. The people of Nineveh fasted and gained forgiveness from God.

Fasting is very difficult indeed. That is most likely the reason why most of us wish to avoid it and belittle its value. It takes something away from the one who fast. Maybe, that, together with the right spirit, is where its merit lies.

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Good works. Don't we do good things for the one we love? Sometimes, they entail sacrifices on our part but we do not know it because the sacrifices are not seen as difficulties but acts of love. Consider a suitor trying to win his love's affection. How far would he travel just to see the one he loves. He does not think the trouble of traveling as sacrifice or hardship. Instead, he sees the beloved waiting at the end of the trip.

If somebody says “I love you” and does not follow through with loving acts, can the subject of his 'love' honestly say that he/she is loved? How would a supposed love relationship be if there are no loving acts shown by the parties? It is not just the physical affection, but all other deeds that, taken together, show love, e.g., a father playing with his young children after a hard day's work, a brother sharing his toy to his sibling, a wife listening to her husband, a poor widow giving her last two cents in the donation box, etc.

Our relationship with God requires nothing less. When we say we love God, we need to show it. Doing good works, for the love of God, is the way to show it. For this purpose, one has a choice among the corporal and spiritual works of mercy, e.g., visiting the sick, praying for others, etc.

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One more word about good works – they fill the space left empty by fasting. With fasting, we remove something from our life. The resulting space should now be filled by something worthwhile lest something worse than that which was removed takes its place. For example, when one gives up mindless web surfing during Lent, that freed time should be used for something useful such as spending more time with family members.

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Prayer. Communication is key to all loving relationships. Prayer is the way we communicate with God. Many saints have considered a sigh, or a look directed at Heaven as prayer. There are those too who considered work (honorable work) as prayer. There are many, many ways to pray. I suppose the key is keeping God in one's thoughts and heart constantly and doing everything with consideration of what God's love desires for us.

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Because I need a seventh entry to make this post a 7 Quick Takes Post, let me close with this quote from St. PAul of the Cross - 

'"The true adorers shall adore the Father in spirit and in truth." (John iv. 23.) Note these words well, because they contain all the elements of prayer; its perfection consists not in the joys and sensible delights which it may produce, but in the spirit- that is, in a true, pure, and simple nakedness and poverty of spirit, detached from all sensible consolation, so that the spirit reposes, purely and simply, in the infinite Spirit of God. Our Lord adds: "and in truth " - that is to say, we must have a full consciousness of our nothingness, so as not to rob God of one iota of His glory.'

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Have a blessed Lent.

~Imelda